CONTENTS
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Preface
Introduction
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| 1 Life Stories |
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Making sense of our lives by taking another look at our life stories
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| 2 Blind Spots |
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Overcoming the limitations of a self-centered perspective by imagining another person’s experience
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| 3 Wounds |
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Why we can’t “just get over it”—or, psychobiology as the teacher
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| 4 Unanswered Cries |
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The need for witness and consolation after bad things happen
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| 5 Wars |
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How past wars affect our lives today
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| 6 Sexual Abuse |
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The need to let others know in order to heal from childhood sexual abuse
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| 7 Grief |
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Healing from loss by giving grief its due
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| 8 Fallout |
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Survival reactions to dangers that are no longer there
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| 9 Choosing to Grow |
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Growing beyond our families through mastery and reenactment
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| 10 Honesty |
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Answering the question “Where are you?” and risking the truth
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| 11 Coming Together |
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The healing union as a second chance to master trauma
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| 12 Honoring Parents |
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Re-forming character and forgiving our parents
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| 13 New Insights |
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Gently pursuing more information to read between the lines of our parents’ stories
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| 14 Giving Care |
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Honoring parents and ourselves through final witness
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Acknowledgments
Notes
Resources
Index
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